I really love this rant for three reasons:
1) I think it’s SO important to recognize that Facebook is not the “real” world. In the real world, you might walk in on a friend fighting with her boyfriend, or be having lunch when she finds out her daughter is failing a class, or catch your best friend sneaking a cigarette or yelling at her mother. Facebook (and social media in general) provides a veil over the reality of people’s lives so we only see others through rose-colored glasses. There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with that, but it’s so so important to recognize because Real Girls know that there are days and weeks and years that are insanely difficult and it can be frustrating to look at Facebook and see how “perfectly” everyone’s life seems to be going. It’s not. We’re all struggling right with you. In fact, take up a challenge this week: post something real for your status; something difficult, heart wrenching, something that no one knows about you. The ones who respond and comment are likely your true friends who care about you (and likely see you regularly anyways!). There’s no need to pretend every day is the epitome of perfection; let that imperfection and glorious daily crap out!
2) I find myself VERY concerned lately with how much time we (read: I) spend on social media and in front of our electronics. I feel our world is suffering from a lack of human connection – of human touch, or even just fulfillment of looking another person in the eyes. We all need that. Regularly. Everyone’s lives are so busy, but please find some time to spend in-person with the people you love. It will build a stronger, “realer” relationship and improve your mental and physical health as well. Call and say “Happy Birthday” in person instead of posting it on your sister’s wall! (guilty). Reach out. It’s important.
3) I think self-reflection is so very important. I love the call to examine ourselves and our reasons for doing the things we do. Of course, be sure to always examine with kindness and love – learn to stop yourself when you begin to criticize and judge yourself – but take a look at your own motivations. Why do you do certain things? I’ve lately found myself actually thinking in Facebook statuses. Something happens and I automatically imagine how I would word it in a Facebook status. There’s got to be more time spent just enjoying the moment and the connection with our loved ones and letting some – or many – of those moment be JUST FOR US. No one else gets to take part. It builds intimacy in our relationships to have some things that are only shared between two people. So take some time to kindly and supportively look at your reasons for engaging with social media, posting certain statuses, responding to certain things you read, and build a healthier outlook. There is SO much to be gained from pulling ourselves away from our motivations to “look good” or build a certain image, and simply do things because it’s who we are. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t post anything at all because let’s face it, face booking is fun, but stick to the stuff that benefits you or has a genuine purpose. The rest will just make you feel like a slave to people who have no business judging (or in some cases even knowing) who you are.
So thank you now-flying-free-girl-next-door-divorcee-who-used-to-be-Queen-of-Life-is-Perfect-shiz-on-Facebook-but-was-really-getting-her-ass-beat-at-home-and-nobody-including-herself-was-real for your awesome submission! She gets this adorable hanger
with the words:
“Be daring, be different, be original, be you!”
“Create the life you imagine”
Thanks for showing us all how to be more real. Please continue sending in your poetry, life stories, rants, random musings, artwork, pictures, videos, accomplishments (anything that tells us about you and what makes you unique!) to BeaRealGirl@gmail.com so we can begin sharing your beauty with everyone!